Hey Cousin Butchie!

To be totally honest, I am writing to you because I don't know where else to get a handle on my problem. So, here goes...

I joined an on-line dating service more than two years ago when I was 16 y.o. Almost immediately, I became a friend of another guy who was my age, looked great, shared many of my issues and it went full steam ahead. We live about 150 miles apart, and since we are both too young to drive, we have only met four times. Everything seemed cool, and we laughed when we both agreed that we hoped the other dude wasn't "cat-fishing" us.

After the first meeting, we bonded more. We told each other our innermost feelings, our problems with our families, our career goals,  We even bet on sports games when neither of us knew precisely what was happening. In addition, I helped him with some of his math homework in texts, calls and e-mails. We made a plan to apply to the same colleges where we could be roommates. The plan worked! The school move-in is set for the end of August and there was no problem choosing each other as roomies.

When we met in New York last week to celebrate the way we have bonded and fallen in love with each other. We took the Circle Line and then went to a great restaurant because my dad gave me his credit card.  During dinner, my b/f told me that he is a Gay Republican. I thought he was joking, but he went on to tell me how Donald-45 is really making America great again. I got a little upset and had tears in my eyes. He turned a deaf ear to everything I tried to tell him about the terrible impact this man is trying to have on LGBTQ people in America. My b/f never responded to these facts. I felt that I had been crushing on a stranger all this time. No matter how I argued, I gained nothing. Finally, over dessert we decided to agree to disagree. I was actually thinking he is the dumbest gay dude on the planet. 

I am not being conceited, but the two of us are pretty good-looking and buff. We have so much going for us, but this latest revelation in upsetting me a whole lot.

So, I am asking you what you would do if you were me.

Thank you,

Bummed Out in Westfield

Dear Bummed,

I was telling my gay Uncle RJ about your problem.  His reply was that he thinks you should dump the dummy. Hold on, Bummed! I didn't like this response and feel that only someone like Uncle RJ (who has been around the block millions of times) would respond so much like a jerk.

My opinion is that you tell your b/f how serious you believe this issue is to you. Make it a meeting or conversation. Tell him that you need a mind to mind and heart to heart talk.  Also mention that there will be very few, if any, guys at college who will agree with him about  Donald-45.

If your b/f really loves you and has bonded with you as much as you both have he will agree to stop the political talk. Two healthy, intelligent 18 y.o. guys should have much more to do than discuss the merits of our oxymoronic leader.

Please let me know how this progresses.

Cousin Butchie

P.S.  Maybe not immediately, but why not take a look at the blog written by Richard Stiso on March 21, 2018. Dating on-line could be the way Richard shows it.