A Jewish Mother's Concern

Posted by Cousin Butchie on Saturday, September 27, 2014

Dear Cousin Butchie,

Since this is our Jewish celebration of the new year, I decided to tell you something which I am sure many other Jewish gay guys have experienced. I assume that anyway.

After coming out to my kind of secular Jewish parents, I started to hang around with other gay dudes. I met most them in our school's GSA. (That's Gay/Straight Alliance). I would sometimes go to their homes, and I would invite them to mine for video games (for starters
( lol). I began having a major crush on a guy named Anthony. It soon became obvious that he also felt the same about me.  We dated, and I brought him home to meet my mom and dad. After he left, my mom got me aside and said that she really liked Anthony but she didn't think he was Jewish.  I told her that he wasn't.  The silent treatment started and went on for two days. When she did bring up Anthony's name, she said that it was certainly enough that they were accepting of their gay son, but that my "fascination" with a Catholic boy was pushing things too far. We argued. Dad tried to stay neutral, but he was on mom's side.

Well, Cousin Butchie... that was fifteen years ago, and Anthony has been totally accepted as part of the family. We are planning a wedding in the near future.  

Shalom,

Alex

Dear Alex,

That is a wonderful story, and I'm glad you shared it with us. Congratulations on your forthcoming marriage ceremony.  

One important thing was not included in your story. What was the reaction of Anthony's parents?