Pretending Not to Notice

Dear Cousin Butchie,

This is not an earth-shattering question, but some of my friends have become obsessed with the proper etiquette for gay men to use, and I'm asking you this one because I don't think it's been written in any book yet.

Here's the deal.  We will be standing or sitting around talking at the beach or in the locker room or at the park or on the train to NY, and some really hot dude will pass by.  Suddenly one or two of us have mental blackouts and just stare at the dude.  Another of my  friends will make all kinds of funny gestures to get our attention and make sure we see the hunk.  I don't know if there's any proper way to lust in this type of situation. Can you share a technique to use in situations like this?  Please hurry, since the warm weather is here and the chance of seeing hot dudes wearing very little in the way of clothes seems to increase by the hour.

Very Curious

Dear Very Curious,

There was a great movie awhile back which taught a technique which my friends use all the time.  Whenever you and a friend or friends are hanging out and see a hot dude, you immediately interrupt whatever is being said with the word "MEANWHILE."  it becomes an automatic response which signals stopping all else and checking out the passing dude.  It sounds kind of strange, but it really cuts to the chase when you want to share the beauty of what needs to be shared.  When I locate the movie, I will post it. 

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