Dear Cousin Butchie,

You will probably think I am a very nasty little girl because I was snooping around in my brother's room and I found evidence that he is a big time "faggot."  He actually has love letters from other guys (puke, puke).  I have also noticed that my nail polish and eyeliner are disappearing.  Even though he is my brother, I have to admit that my brother is gorgeous, and I really like all the guys hanging around our house all the time.  But, it's still so  abnormal!   I even found a funny smelling little brown bottle in his night table. Should I tell the folks?     Signed:  Scandalized

Dear Scandalized,

You are correct!  Cousin Butchie  does think you are a nasty little girl!  Are you jealous of the fact that your brother attracts the boys and you don't?  I suggest that you cough up a fur ball and mind your own business.  Also, slap yourself upside the head for snooping in your brother's room.  Just what were you looking for?

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