Networking With Style

Thursday, October 18, 2012
What did I miss at the last Networking With Style?
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If you weren't at the most recent Networking With Style, (Tuesday October 16 at Fiddleheads in Jamesburg), here is what you missed:  A Good Time!


Over 40 people from the Central New Jersey LGBT community gathered together in an evening of shared experiences, new business contacts and the beginning of some beautiful friendships all catered by Chef Dan Davis and emceed by General Manager Brian Blatz


Attendees represented PFLAG. Triad House, the psychiatric, health and wellness fields, as well as the legal, real estate, geriatric care and coaching professions.  Judging by all the pockets of conversation, if one had a need, then there was someone there to fill it.  Even The Gay Men's Chorus of New Jersey was represented there!


If you wanted to participate, you had the opportunity to use the open mike portion of the evening to introduce yourself to the entire room and speak about what you do, what your interests are or what brought you to this evening.


In a nutshell, it was an evening of coming together in an uncertain time with like-minded individuals without judgment for the sole purpose of enhancing your own life.


Was it life altering? 




But it was a life affirming.


So, if you would like to be part of the fun, the next one is scheduled for Tuesday, December 4, 2012 at Fiddleheads in Jamesburg, NJ.  For more information check out the Networking With Style fan page on Facebook or see Fiddleheads website

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Thursday, September 20, 2012
What is Networking?
Posted by NWS  

Networking - to an IT person, this means connecting communication devices for the mutual benefit of many. 

The same can be said for social networking, business networking and romantic networking.  It all comes down to communication.  What do you have that can be beneficial to someone else and vice-versa? 

Why do people need to network? 

Well, for many reasons; you may have a business to grow, an event to promote, a product to sell or a love to find.  The reasons are numerous.  You either have something that interests others or you are interested in something someone else has.  Networking grows your business and social connections.  We have all heard the stories about someone who connected a friend of theirs to a new job, a great deal or a new relationship. 

This is networking.  It is meeting people, finding a connection and forging new bonds.

Sounds simple - right?  It can be and it can also be daunting.  You want your message to be simple, clear and to the point yet without being blunt. 

"Hi, my name is George and I sell ball-bearings.  Everything runs better with ball-bearings so buy my ball-bearings."  While being clear, concise and to the point, it isn't very exciting. 

The first thing to learn about networking is something called the "Elevator Speech."  It breaks down who you are, what you do and why someone should come and talk to you.  It should last no more than 90 seconds.  That may not seem like a lot of time but it is a minute and a half.  You will want to be sure to start and finish with your name.  State an objective, (i.e. - I am here to meet people interested in ball-bearings).  It should also include something interesting about you, (i.e. I collect Mayan art).  And finally, it should also give people a reason to talk to you, (i.e. I give the best deals on ball-bearings in the tri-state area.)

Your elevator speech should never run over the alloted time or get into drawn out stories, (the time the monkey stole your hat at the San Diego Zoo was funny but it really isn't that interesting to a group of business men). 

In essence, you are selling yourself.  So be sure to speak clearly and loud enough to be heard.  Smile and make eye contact.  You want the result to be people coming up to you.  Practice what you are going to say beforehand.  Ask a trusted friend to listen to your elevator speech and critique it.  Watch yourself in a mirror.  And ask yourself, "Would I come up and talk to me?"

Yes - it IS scary at first.  But the more you do it, the better you become.  You will end up building a large resource base for all of your needs.  And people will start to seek you out for advice, (What do you think of this Mayan pottery piece being offered on ebay?)

Networking - it grows on you.

Atend the next Networking With Style on October 16th at Fiddleheads Restaurant in Jmesburg. Let us know you will join us!

Tom Callahan is a Certified Professional Coach as well as being a Senior Living and Elder Care Consultant.  He is a self-described "Serial Networker".  He started, built and sold a service company that he never advertised but made successful through networking and referrals.  Tom now heads AFI Coaching and Consulting - a Senior Living and Elder Care consulting company.  He is one of the co-founders of Networking With Style - a LGBT Networking Group.

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