My Coming Out Journey
Hey Everyone! Spring is here! Yay! So here's the latest, I may be moving to North Carolina in August. I still think I can do the blog. I think it would probably be more about being from New Jersey, Gay and now in North Carolina. I can give you guys all the info you might need on the hot gay spots in North Carolina and what it's like to be a Jersey boy in the South. If you remember in 2020 I went down to check it out. It was very difficult because we were in the midst of COVID. I'm hoping now that things are a little better and opening up again it won't be so hard. I know there are hurricanes down there but I also here it also depends on where you live and so many Jersey folks have moved down and really like it. I also have done some research and there are a lot of Radio and TV stations down there so who knows. Besides I have family here so I will always be back to visit. Well, that's it for now I will keep you guys posted and if any one has any tips or comments please feel free to leave them. I have been thinking about other places I might want to live and this just seems right for me. I have a little family there and a few friends and I think that's important rather than moving some where all by myself. Well, here goes stay tuned for more and everyone: HAVE A TERRIFIC SPRING AND SUMMER!!!
Hey everyone! Have a happy, safe and healthy 2022! I know times are difficult right now but we can still keep trying to reach our goals. I am still going to keep pursuing my Radio, Announcer and TV Host career. I feel all these years have prepared me for this moment in time. Halle Berry once said "I have the experience, all I need now is the opportunity" so true and so me. I will as always keep you guys posted and if anything big happens. Moreover, please feel free to let me know what your goals are for 2022! Let's make our dreams come true in 2022! :)
Hey everyone! Guess what! I finished my very first podcast with season 1 now completed! Once I'm given the ok I will let you guys know the name and release date. However, it did not come without some drama.
First, let me start off by saying what an absolutely fantastic time I had! For me it just proved that interviewing and broadcasting is what I TRULY love doing. Since my return home in late 2019 and then COVID-19 hitting us all, it has really been challenging to find work. So, I'm so happy this came along! Yet here is the problem folks. The studio we shot in was very cramped and although I'm vaccinated I wore a mask. I didn't know the podcast was also going to be visual. In the beginning there was no issues. However, after the first or second episode there started to be problems with me wearing the mask. Now, I don't judge others and frankly now being part of the LGBTQ community how could I? If someone wants or does not want to wear a mask that is their choice but I also have a right to chose. I did take the mask off when we had photo shoots or when I hosted a segment by myself because I felt there was good social distancing. There are people still sadly getting the virus even after being vaccinated. So, I'm sorry but I don't feel comfortable taking that risk. I've been in the business a long time so I can tell when something is not working. In our last meeting I simply said I would be more than happy to be a fill in host whenever they need me. I didn't close the door. Moreover, one of the producers and some others did say that this first season was "trial and error", maybe we can get a bigger studio or just zoom or stream it. Another person mentioned most studios have a enough space and separate the hosts on all of their shows. I can't really do the zoom or stream because like I mentioned since moving back to NJ I'm really at the basics right now. I don't have those capabilities. You should see the little studio I'm renting... lol. Anyway, for me, I like going to the studio and getting out of the apartment.
That's the latest guys. I will keep you posted. I'm keeping the door opened and who knows what could happen. I will say that it has been amazing to work on this project and especially since recently coming out making new friends. It just felt great to belong. However, what I will say is in the LGBTQ community we have all felt discrimination's wrath and I feel we should not do that to each other. If I were in charge it wouldn't even be a question. I would find a way to keep that person... they're now family as far as I'm concerned. Ok, stay tuned and everyone enjoy the holidays!!!!!
Here's the latest on the LGBTQ Podcast update. So far we now have done about 7 episodes. I'm learning a lot about podcasting but these days that's where everything is heading. I'm really excited and as soon as I get the release date you guys will be the first to know. Right now we're still in the production and editing phase. I feel so good that last year I did my first LGBTQ interview for Gay Parent Magazine and now this year I have the podcast. I am still pushing to do more and let me tell you why. While I am going to give this my all, I have been interviewing and working in Radio, TV and Print for 20 years (since college) so I know nothing is guaranteed. TV Hosts are disposable. You could come in one day and just find out you've been replaced... just like that. So, while I love what I'm doing, I'm on the lookout for my next project. Stay tuned! Be safe everyone!!!
Guess what? I got the TV Hosting Gig! I will give you more details soon but it's a podcast and it deals with LGBTQ Business in NJ. I will be a Co-Host. We already have 3 shows completed and are being edited as we speak. I'm very excited and I am going to continue my goal to host more LGBTQ shows. What I really want to do is host my own LGBTQ radio show but there just doesn't seem to be much of a chance here in NJ for the kind of show I want to do. It's going to be a real up hill battle and struggle but I'm not giving up the ship yet. At least with this podcast I have taken the first baby step! Yay! Stay tuned!
As you know the title of my blog is "My Coming Out Journey" and I appreciate all those who are coming along with me on this journey. So, with that said I am using my real name. I do know each of us has our own journey to take and forcing someone to come out before they are ready can really be disastrous. However, I feel I'm ready. Oh and I think I may be the co-host of a new lgbtq podcast that is in the works.
Everything looks pretty good and the producers seem to like me so I will keep you posted. I'm also hoping to do some more writing, radio and on-air work. Again everyone have a great Summer and many thanks to everyone for all their comments to my blog. They have ALL been very encouraging and positive which just says so much and means so much! THANK YOU AND HAVE A FANTASTIC SUMMER!!!!
Ok everyone, I'm on the move so I have to make this quick. I am still on my coming out journey and yesterday was my birthday! Where does the time go? Anyway, while I'm happy to have returned to NJ, I really can't believe how there is not more media for LGBTQ. We are so close to NYC and really NJ is a melting pot. I have been in Radio/TV/Print for over 20 years and the same walls that were up when I left are practically still there. I'm I am sure most of you know what I mean by that. I did have a radio show on at Centenary College but because of COVID-19 the show has been put on hiatus. :( I actually went to North Carolina this past October because I was so frustrated. I decided to again return to NJ I would like to stay in my home state and make things happen for us in LGBTQ but it's an up hill battle. Stay tuned! Happy 2021!
It's been a while and this COVID-19 has really taken a toll on us all. Hope everyone is safe and healthy.
I am still on my coming out journey and getting better and better at reaching my goal. I was thinking of moving to North Carolina because I have heard nothing but great things. I know they are working on some LGBTQ issues so I thought to take an 8 day trip. I was in the Greensboro area and checked things out and went on some job interviews. Since returning I have decided that I'm not yet able to make the move but who knows maybe in the future so for now I will stay in New Jersey. Ok, more later and please everyone BE SAFE! Ttys!
I know I'm back again pretty early but I have good news. I just finished my first LGBTQ article and received my first pay check which couldn't have come at a better time! Every little bit helps and I'm really grateful. I feel so good that maybe I'm finally on my way. It's really taken a lot of work and I have more work to do. However, finally I feel that I'm on my way to becoming who I truly am. I was very worried because the last article I wrote was 11 years ago! However, I guess my writing must have been ok. I have so much more I want to do....very excited!!! Stay tuned!
Hey there! I know I'm back pretty soon but I had to share this. A few days ago I just finished my first LGBTQ interview for a magazine. I was kind of nervous but I got through it. It's been a while since I've written but it feels great to be doing it again. The editor will review my story and then get back to me. I'll keep you posted! Have a terrific day!
I have now been back in New Jersey for 7 months! Wow! Where has the time gone! So, I think I'm finally getting close to finding work. This week I had some really fantastic job interviews and one guy really liked me. I applied for an Admin position because I figured I could work my way up. However, he looked at me and said "you're overqualified and from your sales background we could really use you."
Now, I don't know if you're like me but at this point I really didn't want to be in a position that might be more than I can chew because what happens next is I'm unemployed again. However, he explained the job is entry level and has plenty of training and would still keep me in mind for the admin spot. The VP feels I would be bored. To be honest I don't mind being bored especially if I'm getting a paycheck... lol. I also didn't want to turn him down and appreciated his kindness so we'll see. I also have an interview this week for a Theatre Marketing position.
I'm really trying to work hard because my unemployment benefits have now run out and I have only a little savings left. Thank goodness I'm staying with family for now. I also will now start freelance writing for an LGBTQ publication which I'm very happy about.
I guess if I had to sum up 2019 the biggest lesson I've learned is just because it's LGBTQ doesn't mean it's going to be all roses. There are good and bad people in all walks of life. So, I'm a lot more careful these days with everyone. Although I am very happy in my life I wish I started coming my coming out journey a little earlier. I think this is probably going to be the biggest challenge of my life! Stay tuned and thanks for reading as always!
Hey Everyone! Happy New Year!
I'm still looking for a job but I have been networking like crazy. Almost every week I have an interview. It's just very tough out here. I'm learning how to re-define myself. It's literally been down to me and someone else for the position and I just missed. I have also had some weird interviews. One job I didn't get because although the guy said he really liked me he felt the distance was too far (they don't take anyone that lives more than 30 minutes away). What?! I tried to explain that I have commuted over an hour at times in my career and was never late! However, sometimes you just can't change someone's mind. :(
Moreover, I also wanted to continue working in LGBTQ but at this point I will have to take what I can. Overall, I have found the LGBTQ community in New Jersey to be very supportive... it's just tough. I guess this is going to be another life lesson and growing chapter of my life. What I do to de-stress is make sure to hit the gym, go to Barnes & Noble to relax because I love books and look at the positive and stay calm. I know, easier said than done.
Oh and my love life, well, nothing yet. I was dating but we decided we are better as friends and we are!
It's 2020 and with a new year and decade there comes hope and possibilities! If there is any one going through something similar I would love to hear from you. All the best to everyone for a fantastic 2020! Stay Tuned!
I'm still job interviewing and I feel I'm getting close. As I mentioned last time, I do have a radio gig at an NJ University which I'm really enjoying. I really wanted to find a job before the holidays because as we all know once the holidays start it's almost impossible to find work. So say a prayer as I continue my journey. I must say it does feel great to be back home again. I'm just trying to not make the same mistakes that I did in the past. I'm hoping I can find a job where I can be relatively happy and go from there. Stay tuned and I hope everyone has a nice holiday!
I have now been in New Jersey for about two months and I may have my first radio gig. I'm not superstitious or any thing but until I actually start it I'm skeptical...lol. It is for a College University and I met for a second time with the PD (Program Director). I have my time slot and today went through training. Next week we will record my show promo and I think I will start then. It's a two hour slot with no pay but it's a start and I'm very excited. You guys might know this but in the radio biz the longer you're off the air then well... you get it. I also just love radio. I would do it for free (and I am...lol). I have had some paid jobs and then recently some no pay jobs. I just decided a few years ago that I'm doing it to "feed my soul". Hopefully something will lead to me being able to feed myself (I couldn't help saying that). I have also found a fill in TV Hosting job with a Gay TV News program in NYC. Again, next week I will meet with the Producers and other Hosts to see if we're a fit.
I know these are small steps but I feel very good about this. What's the old saying "You have to crawl before you can walk".....stay tuned!
Just wanted to check in briefly and say hello. So, as you know I'm back in New Jersey trying to get settled in. My dream job would be to have my own Radio show but more of an LGBTQ friendly one. It looks as if I may again have to take another job to support myself as I pursue my dream.
Before coming back home I lived in Connecticut and lastly Boston. The competition is fierce and it looks like it will be the same here. I did manage to find some work in Connecticut but not in Boston. I worked at a terrific community radio station in Connecticut called WAPJ located in Torrington. They are true radio lovers and welcomed me with open arms. Boston did not. In Boston you actually have to pay a fee to be on a community radio station.
When I arrived back in New Jersey it seemed like everyone was going to welcome me back with open arms. I met with someone at William Paterson College who said they could use a speaker like myself with many years of experience. Then my old station that I interned at WRNJ said they might have something. Sadly, those all seem to have gone by the wayside. There may be some hope at Centenary University.
Now to anyone who is aspiring to get into radio in New Jersey here is what I've learned. Most stations only allow students to have radio shows... darn! However, there are some that have a mix of Student and Community. There is no fee but students have first dibs. So out of all the many stations I've called there may be a glimmer of hope at Centenary. Stay tuned.
In closing, I will say that I'm a guy of a certain age and for almost all my life I have not been able to achieve my dreams which can be very frustrating and sad. However, I choose to focus on the positive. I have my health, a place to stay, friends, family and a state that I really feel at home in again!
If you're reading this and have had to put your dreams on hold or even abandon them I would love to hear from you! Thanks so much for reading and ttys!
Thanks so much Bonnie!!! Really appreciate it! So, this is my first day back in New Jersey and it feels great! Now the work begins....looking for work and then a permanent place to stay oh and love of course. Again, for anyone that might be reading along with me (thanks again btw) I'm looking for work as a Radio or TV Host....maybe even do some more acting. I'm also getting back into writing as you can tell. Being a Radio or TV Host can really be highly competitive. You can be too tall, not tall enough or your voice too this or that. Yet I will give it my all. This time around I'm definitely going to try and go for my dreams. If there are any of you out there here's what I've learned. You should always go for your dream because giving up and trying to play it safe really isn't safe at all. I'll tell why from my own little point of view. That little "safe box" can turn into a prison when dreams are unfulfilled. So, I always tell everyone! Go for your Dreams! So here I go! If there is anyone that's ever been in that situation or is in that situation would love to hear how you are: Going for Your Dreams!!! Stay tuned.
Well folks, tomorrow's the big move to New Jersey! I'm very excited to be returning home again after being away 15 years. I'm trying to line up work but it looks like it will also be a struggle. I was hoping for radio work but so far after submitting my air checks no responses. For anyone not in radio, here's a little behind the scenes info. Radio is all about who you know and having the voice they want. If you don't have what they want, well, you don't get the call back. It doesn't mean you don't have a good voice... just not what they are looking for. I'm not going to give up. I've also done TV and voice-over work so I'm trying all avenues.
In Boston I worked for an LGBTQ digital publication and I would still like to continue working somehow in LGBTQ. I spoke with someone who said it's really grown in the last 15 years so I'm hopeful. Most of my family is in New Jersey so it will be nice to be around them for more than my weekend visits every season. Sometimes I wonder "why did I leave in the first place". However, I think we all do it as part of the journey in just discovering ourselves and exploring new places. Then, in the end, it's like Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz or my favorite version The Wiz! Stay tuned and thanks for reading!