My Coming Out Journey

Monday, October 19, 2020
My Trip To North Carolina
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Hey everyone!

It's been a while and this COVID-19 has really taken a toll on us all. Hope everyone is safe and healthy.

I am still on my coming out journey and getting better and better at reaching my goal. I was thinking of moving to North Carolina because I have heard nothing but great things. I know they are working on some LGBTQ issues so I thought to take an 8 day trip. I was in the Greensboro area and checked things out and went on some job interviews. Since returning I have decided that I'm not yet able to make the move but who knows maybe in the future so for now I will stay in New Jersey. Ok, more later and please everyone BE SAFE! Ttys!

Ross:)


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Saturday, February 29, 2020
My First Story and Check!
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Hi everyone,

I know I'm back again pretty early but I have good news. I just finished my first LGBTQ article and received my first pay check which couldn't have come at a better time! Every little bit helps and I'm really grateful. I feel so good that maybe I'm finally on my way. It's really taken a lot of work and I have more work to do. However, finally I feel that I'm on my way to becoming who I truly am. I was very worried because the last article I wrote was 11 years ago! However, I guess my writing must have been ok. I have so much more I want to do....very excited!!! Stay tuned!


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Wednesday, February 26, 2020
My First LGBTQ Interview
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Hey there! I know I'm back pretty soon but I had to share this. A few days ago I just finished my first LGBTQ interview for a magazine. I was kind of nervous but I got through it. It's been a while since I've written but it feels great to be doing it again. The editor will review my story and then get back to me. I'll keep you posted! Have a terrific day!

Ross


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Thursday, February 20, 2020
2020 Continued I'm Getting Close... I Hope!
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Hi everyone!

I have now been back in New Jersey for 7 months! Wow! Where has the time gone! So, I think I'm finally getting close to finding work. This week I had some really fantastic job interviews and one guy really liked me. I applied for an Admin position because I figured I could work my way up. However, he looked at me and said "you're overqualified and from your sales background we could really use you."

Now, I don't know if you're like me but at this point I really didn't want to be in a position that might be more than I can chew because what happens next is I'm unemployed again. However, he explained the job is entry level and has plenty of training and would still keep me in mind for the admin spot. The VP feels I would be bored. To be honest I don't mind being bored especially if I'm getting a paycheck... lol.  I also didn't want to turn him down and appreciated his kindness so we'll see. I also have an interview this week for a Theatre Marketing position.

I'm really trying to work hard because my unemployment benefits have now run out and I have only a little savings left. Thank goodness I'm staying with family for now. I also will now start freelance writing for an LGBTQ publication which I'm very happy about.

I guess if I had to sum up 2019 the biggest lesson I've learned is just because it's LGBTQ doesn't mean it's going to be all roses. There are good and bad people in all walks of life. So, I'm a lot more careful these days with everyone. Although I am very happy in my life I wish I started coming my coming out journey a little earlier. I think this is probably going to be the biggest challenge of my life! Stay tuned and thanks for reading as always!

Ross:)

 

 


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Saturday, January 18, 2020
It's 2020!
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Hey Everyone! Happy New Year! 

I'm still looking for a job but I have been networking like crazy. Almost every week I have an interview. It's just very tough out here. I'm learning how to re-define myself. It's literally been down to me and someone else for the position and I just missed. I have also had some weird interviews. One job I didn't get because although the guy said he really liked me he felt the distance was too far (they don't take anyone that lives more than 30 minutes away). What?! I tried to explain that I have commuted over an hour at times in my career and was never late! However, sometimes you just can't change someone's mind. :(

Moreover, I also wanted to continue working in LGBTQ but at this point I will have to take what I can. Overall, I have found the LGBTQ community in New Jersey to be very supportive... it's just tough. I guess this is going to be another life lesson and growing chapter of my life. What I do to de-stress is make sure to hit the gym, go to Barnes & Noble to relax because I love books and look at the positive and stay calm. I know, easier said than done.

Oh and my love life, well, nothing yet. I was dating but we decided we are better as friends and we are!

It's 2020 and with a new year and decade there comes hope and possibilities! If there is any one going through something similar I would love to hear from you. All the best to everyone for a fantastic 2020! Stay Tuned!

Ross:)

 


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Monday, November 25, 2019
My Radio Gig Part 2 and More
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Hi all,

I'm still job interviewing and I feel I'm getting close. As I mentioned last time, I do have a radio gig at an NJ University which I'm really enjoying. I really wanted to find a job before the holidays because as we all know once the holidays start it's almost impossible to find work. So say a prayer as I continue my journey. I must say it does feel great to be back home again. I'm just trying to not make the same mistakes that I did in the past. I'm hoping I can find a job where I can be relatively happy and go from there. Stay tuned and I hope everyone has a nice holiday!

Ross:)


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Friday, October 11, 2019
My First Radio Gig in NJ
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Hi Guys,

I have now been in New Jersey for about two months and I may have my first radio gig. I'm not superstitious or any thing but until I actually start it I'm skeptical...lol. It is for a College University and I met for a second time with the PD (Program Director). I have my time slot and today went through training. Next week we will record my show promo and I think I will start then. It's a two hour slot with no pay but it's a start and I'm very excited. You guys might know this but in the radio biz the longer you're off the air then well... you get it. I also just love radio. I would do it for free (and I am...lol). I have had some paid jobs and then recently some no pay jobs. I just decided a few years ago that I'm doing it to "feed my soul". Hopefully something will lead to me being able to feed myself (I couldn't help saying that). I have also found a fill in TV Hosting job with a Gay TV News program in NYC. Again, next week I will meet with the Producers and other Hosts to see if we're a fit.

I know these are small steps but I feel very good about this.  What's the old saying "You have to crawl before you can walk".....stay tuned!

Ross:)


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Wednesday, September 11, 2019
Radio and TV LGBT
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Hi Guys,

Just wanted to check in briefly and say hello. So, as you know I'm back in New Jersey trying to get settled in. My dream job would be to have my own Radio show but more of an LGBTQ friendly one. It looks as if I may again have to take another job to support myself as I pursue my dream.

Before coming back home I lived in Connecticut and lastly Boston. The competition is fierce and it looks like it will be the same here. I did manage to find some work in Connecticut but not in Boston. I worked at a terrific community radio station in Connecticut called WAPJ located in Torrington. They are true radio lovers and welcomed me with open arms. Boston did not. In Boston you actually have to pay a fee to be on a community radio station.

When I arrived back in New Jersey it seemed like everyone was going to welcome me back with open arms. I met with someone at William Paterson College who said they could use a speaker like myself with many years of experience. Then my old station that I interned at WRNJ said they might have something. Sadly, those all seem to have gone by the wayside. There may be some hope at Centenary University.

Now to anyone who is aspiring to get into radio in New Jersey here is what I've learned. Most stations only allow students to have radio shows... darn!  However, there are some that have a mix of Student and Community. There is no fee but students have first dibs. So out of all the many stations I've called there may be a glimmer of hope at Centenary. Stay tuned.

In closing, I will say that I'm a guy of a certain age and for almost all my life I have not been able to achieve my dreams which can be very frustrating and sad. However, I choose to focus on the positive. I have my health, a place to stay, friends, family and a state that I really feel at home in again!

If you're reading this and have had to put your dreams on hold or even abandon them I would love to hear from you! Thanks so much for reading and ttys!

Ross:)

 


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Friday, August 2, 2019
I'm Back In New Jersey!
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Thanks so much Bonnie!!! Really appreciate it!  So, this is my first day back in New Jersey and it feels great!  Now the work begins....looking for work and then a permanent place to stay oh and love of course.  Again, for anyone that might be reading along with me (thanks again btw) I'm looking for work as a Radio or TV Host....maybe even do some more acting.  I'm also getting back into writing as you can tell.  Being a Radio or TV Host can really be highly competitive. You can be too tall, not tall enough or your voice too this or that. Yet I will give it my all.  This time around I'm definitely going to try and go for my dreams. If there are any of you out there here's what I've learned. You should always go for your dream because giving up and trying to play it safe really isn't safe at all. I'll tell why from my own little point of view. That little "safe box" can turn into a prison when dreams are unfulfilled. So, I always tell everyone! Go for your Dreams! So here I go! If there is anyone that's ever been in that situation or is in that situation would love to hear how you are: Going for Your Dreams!!!  Stay tuned.

Ross


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Thursday, August 1, 2019
Tomorrow's The Big Move
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Well folks, tomorrow's the big move to New Jersey! I'm very excited to be returning home again after being away 15 years. I'm trying to line up work but it looks like it will also be a struggle. I was hoping for radio work but so far after submitting my air checks no responses. For anyone not in radio, here's a little behind the scenes info. Radio is all about who you know and having the voice they want. If you don't have what they want, well, you don't get the call back. It doesn't mean you don't have a good voice... just not what they are looking for. I'm not going to give up. I've also done TV and voice-over work so I'm trying all avenues.

In Boston I worked for an LGBTQ digital publication and I would still like to continue working somehow in LGBTQ. I spoke with someone who said it's really grown in the last 15 years so I'm hopeful. Most of my family is in New Jersey so it will be nice to be around them for more than my weekend visits every season. Sometimes I wonder "why did I leave in the first place". However, I think we all do it as part of the journey in just discovering ourselves and exploring new places. Then, in the end, it's like Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz or my favorite version The Wiz! Stay tuned and thanks for reading!

Ross


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