My Coming Out Journey
Hey Everyone! Happy New Year!
Well, here's the latest. I'm still looking for a job but I have been networking like crazy. Almost every week I have an interview, it's just very tough out here. I'm learning how to re-define myself. It's literally been down to me and someone else for the position and I just missed. I have also had some weird interviews. One job I didn't get because although the guy said he really liked me he felt the distance was too far (they don't take anyone that lives more than 30 minutes away). What?! I tried to explain that I have commuted over an hour at times in my career and was never late! However, sometimes you just can't change someone's mind:(
Moreover, I also wanted to continue working in LGBTQ but at this point I will have to take what I can. Overall, I have found the LGBTQ community in New Jersey to be very supportive....it's just tough. I guess this is going to be another life lesson and growing chapter of my life. What I do to de-stress is make sure to hit the gym, go to Barnes & Noble to relax because I love books and look at the positive and stay calm. I know....easier said than done...lol.
Oh and my love life....well....nothing yet. I was dating but we decided we are better as friends and we are!
It's 2020 and with a new year and decade there comes hope and possibilities! If there is any one going through something similar I would love to hear from you. All the best to everyone for a fantastic 2020!!!! Stay Tuned!
I'm still job interviewing and I feel I'm getting close. As I mentioned last time, I do have a radio gig at an NJ University which I'm really enjoying. I really wanted to find a job before the holidays because as we all know once the holidays start it's almost impossible to find work. So say a prayer as I continue my journey. I must say it does feel great to be back home again. I'm just trying to not make the same mistakes that I did in the past. I'm hoping I can find a job where I can be relatively happy and go from there. Stay tuned and I hope everyone has a nice holiday!
I have now been in New Jersey for about two months and I may have my first radio gig. I'm not superstitious or any thing but until I actually start it I'm skeptical...lol. It is for a College University and I met for a second time with the PD (Program Director). I have my time slot and today went through training. Next week we will record my show promo and I think I will start then. It's a two hour slot with no pay but it's a start and I'm very excited. You guys might know this but in the radio biz the longer you're off the air then well... you get it. I also just love radio. I would do it for free (and I am...lol). I have had some paid jobs and then recently some no pay jobs. I just decided a few years ago that I'm doing it to "feed my soul". Hopefully something will lead to me being able to feed myself (I couldn't help saying that). I have also found a fill in TV Hosting job with a Gay TV News program in NYC. Again, next week I will meet with the Producers and other Hosts to see if we're a fit.
I know these are small steps but I feel very good about this. What's the old saying "You have to crawl before you can walk".....stay tuned!
Just wanted to check in briefly and say hello. So, as you know I'm back in New Jersey trying to get settled in. My dream job would be to have my own Radio show but more of an LGBTQ friendly one. It looks as if I may again have to take another job to support myself as I pursue my dream.
Before coming back home I lived in Connecticut and lastly Boston. The competition is fierce and it looks like it will be the same here. I did manage to find some work in Connecticut but not in Boston. I worked at a terrific community radio station in Connecticut called WAPJ located in Torrington. They are true radio lovers and welcomed me with open arms. Boston did not. In Boston you actually have to pay a fee to be on a community radio station.
When I arrived back in New Jersey it seemed like everyone was going to welcome me back with open arms. I met with someone at William Paterson College who said they could use a speaker like myself with many years of experience. Then my old station that I interned at WRNJ said they might have something. Sadly, those all seem to have gone by the wayside. There may be some hope at Centenary University.
Now to anyone who is aspiring to get into radio in New Jersey here is what I've learned. Most stations only allow students to have radio shows... darn! However, there are some that have a mix of Student and Community. There is no fee but students have first dibs. So out of all the many stations I've called there may be a glimmer of hope at Centenary. Stay tuned.
In closing, I will say that I'm a guy of a certain age and for almost all my life I have not been able to achieve my dreams which can be very frustrating and sad. However, I choose to focus on the positive. I have my health, a place to stay, friends, family and a state that I really feel at home in again!
If you're reading this and have had to put your dreams on hold or even abandon them I would love to hear from you! Thanks so much for reading and ttys!
Thanks so much Bonnie!!! Really appreciate it! So, this is my first day back in New Jersey and it feels great! Now the work begins....looking for work and then a permanent place to stay oh and love of course. Again, for anyone that might be reading along with me (thanks again btw) I'm looking for work as a Radio or TV Host....maybe even do some more acting. I'm also getting back into writing as you can tell. Being a Radio or TV Host can really be highly competitive. You can be too tall, not tall enough or your voice too this or that. Yet I will give it my all. This time around I'm definitely going to try and go for my dreams. If there are any of you out there here's what I've learned. You should always go for your dream because giving up and trying to play it safe really isn't safe at all. I'll tell why from my own little point of view. That little "safe box" can turn into a prison when dreams are unfulfilled. So, I always tell everyone! Go for your Dreams! So here I go! If there is anyone that's ever been in that situation or is in that situation would love to hear how you are: Going for Your Dreams!!! Stay tuned.
Well folks, tomorrow's the big move to New Jersey! I'm very excited to be returning home again after being away 15 years. I'm trying to line up work but it looks like it will also be a struggle. I was hoping for radio work but so far after submitting my air checks no responses. For anyone not in radio, here's a little behind the scenes info. Radio is all about who you know and having the voice they want. If you don't have what they want, well, you don't get the call back. It doesn't mean you don't have a good voice... just not what they are looking for. I'm not going to give up. I've also done TV and voice-over work so I'm trying all avenues.
In Boston I worked for an LGBTQ digital publication and I would still like to continue working somehow in LGBTQ. I spoke with someone who said it's really grown in the last 15 years so I'm hopeful. Most of my family is in New Jersey so it will be nice to be around them for more than my weekend visits every season. Sometimes I wonder "why did I leave in the first place". However, I think we all do it as part of the journey in just discovering ourselves and exploring new places. Then, in the end, it's like Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz or my favorite version The Wiz! Stay tuned and thanks for reading!