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This letter has been translated by a friend who was able to translate from Polish to English. I am very grateful to her for volunteering. Dear Cousin Butchie, I have just moved to the United States to be with my boyfriend of six years. We are both ...

Vatican Still Doesn't Really Get It

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Dear Uncle RJ, I know your nephew, Cousin Butchie... and I don't think he is smart enough to answer my question. Don't tell him I said that, but it is true. So... What is your opinion of the latest statements from Pope Francis on April 8, 2016? ...

After Five Years He Doesn't Want to Get Married!

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Dear RJ, I was going to send this question to your nephew, Butchie-- but I decided that asking an older dude (do they still call you a dude at your age?) would be better. You are older and wiser and probably have seen it all and done it all. I ...

Just a test!

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I haven't posted in quite awhile, but my nephew, Cousin Butchie seems to have made up for it. I've always liked the kid, but he does come across as having all the answers! I talked to Butchie the other night and we decided to see if anyone will ...

Justice from New Brunswick, NJ???

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JUSTICE FROM NEW BRUNSWICK??? I waited to write anything about the trial and the sentencing of Dharun Ravi because I thought others would have more learned input. Certainly, Steven Goldstein of Garden State Equality did an excellent job of ...

Now the Vatican is Gunning for the Sisters!

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More than likely you have read or have heard about the Vatican's attempt to pay particular attention to the religious sisters in the church. I should preface this for you with the facts about our modern day sisters. In the past, they were more ...

Easter, Passover, the Titanic and the LGBT Community

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Easter, Passover, the Titanic and the LGBT Community The convergence of two of the most profound holydays for Christians and Jews occurred this past week. In the coming week, we recall the 100th anniversary of the sinking of the Titanic on her ...

The Bad Penny Returns

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Greetings to all of my thousands of readers who have missed my blogs lately. Your cards and messages and floral deliveries sent to the funeral home have been forwarded to me. Worry not! It was all some sort of mix-up so I can save my new suit for ...

OMG! The Issue is Birth Control!

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OMG! The Issue Is Birth Control. As I have written before, I am a practicing Roman Catholic. Probably, it is more accurate to say that I am a practicing Roman Catholic gay man. Since this church (fifty years since Blessed John XXIII convened ...

"Outed" at 65

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"Outing" at 65! I had really started to feel content and "in control" of my life when I came out to my family and close friends in 1979. (Now please spare me the remarks about you not having been born yet, etc.) My latest ambush on the sexual ...

A New Perspective from Two Twinks

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A New Perspective from Two Twinks: I want to share one of those "aha" moments I received from two Twinks who were merely seated next to me in the food court of one of our major Central Jersey shopping malls. I spotted these guys who were frankly ...

Taking Care of Our Own LGBTI Youth

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The holiday season is in full swing, and I'm sure you have all received many appeals from charities of every type. Recently, there was a surprise (to me) revelation about the specific homophobia of the Salvation Army. I have seen firsthand their ...

AIDS IS FAR FROM OVER!

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It is two days since WORLD AIDS DAY on December 1st and I believe the media has done very little to emphasize that HIV/AIDS is still a major epidemic among gay men in this country. It has been important to point out the tragic circumstances of ...

Something to Ponder

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I certainly hope you all had a great Thanksgiving, survived the relatives, ate until you were uber full, made it to Wal-Mart with pepper spray in hand. Almost forgot, did you say grace before dinner-- all pretending that they do this at every meal ...

Not the right time to come out!+-

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As the various holidays descend upon us, it occurs to some gay and lesbian people that it would be the ideal time to come out. I am not an expert on this subject, but I can tell you what a thirty year affiliation with PFLAG (and now the voice of ...

Death Always Stares Us Down

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The subject of death is not something our society likes to hear about, read about or talk about. Yet, death enters our lives as the great thief in the night, and we are left to deal with feelings we may not have realized could run so deep. I ...

Bullying/Suicides...... Don't Shut Up!

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For some reason I have hesitated to blog about the continued bullying in our schools and the suicides of so many of our children. I suspect that I was a little ahead of The Advocate's current article suggesting that so much media attention to the ...

Yes, Jesus May Well Have Been Gay!

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It has always been apparent to me that Michael Moore takes on the giant corporations and the government leaders to make some very valid observations. His latest controvery came when Moore said that Jesus may very well have been gay. I don't know ...

Sieze the Rays of Hope

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Roman Catholics are numerically the largest religion in the United States. Whether they are going to Mass every week is another issue. As a Gay Roman Catholic, my life has been a balancing act. I have tried other faith traditions and found them ...

Some Older People Have It In Perspective

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I don't have any even remotely interesting sharings for this blog until next week, but I do want to share a profoundly moving moment I experienced here at God's Waiting Room. I suggest you get your tissues. Muriel and Fred had been married for 62 ...

Young Gay Youth at Seemingly Different Ends of the Spectrum

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This past week in God's Waiting Room has been interesting, frustrating and challenging-- and all of these feelings and reactions have been caused by two gay boys, both under 21 years of age. In both instances, I had been asked by their ...

Tyler Clementi Lives On

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This week on September 22nd we recall the passing of Tyler Clementi, the victim of bullying in its worst form. He was denied his privacy and pushed over the edge of reason by other Rutgers students who chose to take away his dignity and freedom to ...

9/11 and the Gay Heroes

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9/11's Gay Heroes I wasn't too sure I was going to write anything about the tenth anniversary of 9/11. The media already seems surfeited with coverage, local municipalities and churches and temples are presenting special services. When I heard a ...

Good Signs in the Gay Community

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After the week we have all survived, and the totally unpredictable damage from community to community, I didn't want to tell any of the funnier stories about living this out in God's Waiting Room. We'll save that for another day. Two things struck ...

Keep It to Yourself

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Do you remember your first crush? In all probability that is a person you became totally obsessed with. We all had first experiences which, at the time, we were sure were going to last forever. It doesn't matter when it took place, but it formed ...

Answer Their Questions!

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ANSWER THEIR QUESTIONS! We all know that most heterosexual people can be dense at times. They might appear to be very accepting of us, but their questions often grate on my nerves. Sometimes it is best to ignore the question or comment, but at ...

Don't Be So Sure!

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Don't be so sure when you start to assume who will be in favor of gay rights and who will be against them. An interesting discussion started here in God's Waiting Room about GLBT rights. The social worker who led the group introduced the subject ...

Adjusting

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Well, RJ is still taking psychotropic meds to get adjusted to living in God's Waiting Room, but the problems have become more than I expected. The other morning, I entered the elevator to greet a pleasant lady holding a Dunkin' Donuts bag. I ...

The Reality Dating Service

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Despite what some very sweet PFLAG mothers (and others) would like you to believe, not every gay man arrives in his golden years, living in God's Waiting Room happily- partnered for forty-three years, with three adopted children from third world ...

Observations

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In response to Bill Realman Stella, I am taking the easy way out this time. I'll limit myself to one belief which is sure to cause controversy and one which should not. Other parts of the fielded questions will be tackled later in the week. ...

Ask me a question!

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Now that everyone is recovering from the excitement of NJ Pride, I invite you to submit a question you might not be comfortable about asking your closest friend. RJ is up to the challenge and would really be happy to field your question. You can ...

What Do We Have to be Proud of?

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Back in 1981 when gay pride and the women's rights movements were still in their infancy, a disturbing statement was made about us: "Women's liberation and gay liberation are part of the same thing: a weakening of the moral standards of this nation. ...

GOD'S WAITING ROOM

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Greetings, dear readers! I've been given the opportunity to write this blog from God's waiting room, adjacent to God's front door. After a certain age, the gay community at large puts everyone in this holding room. The people are too old to ...