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Uncle RJ Invited to Answer Questions for Cousin Butchie #2

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Dear Uncle RJ, What is it like to be an older gay man living in our society? I have had a good number of partners while looking for Mr. Right, and only a few have come close to what I seek, but they didn't come close enough. Are all gay couples ...

Uncle RJ Invited to Answer Questions for Cousin Butchie #1

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Hello Faithful Readers, This is Cousin Butchie. Over the past few months, there have been some questions sent my way and I have felt that they could be better answered by my elderly Uncle RJ. It's not that I can't answer these questions. It's ...

Being a Good Older Brother

Dear Cousin Butchie, My brother and I are both gay. I'm three years older than he is, but we came out at the same time. Our parents were stunned at first. You know, they never suspected, etc. Now they are very accepting and are even marching in the ...

The Equality March for Unity and Pride

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Summer is almost upon us! I know hard to believe right. Depending on where you live it may or may not feel like spring. Although i feel like with global warming, it doesn't feel like much like spring anywhere north of the of the Mason Dixon. However ...

What is happening to our community?

Cousin Butchie! A few friends and I were discussing a problem which still exists in the gay and lesbian community. We all are beyond bothered by the way people think that the transgender people (who have come out of nowhere) are suddenly identified ...

I am soo scared!

Dear Cousin Butchie, I am very scared right now, and none of my friends let me talk about it. As soon as I lead into a discussion, they tune me out. Here's what happened. My parents weren't home and I answered the door for two of Jehovah's ...

Bigotry within the LGBT community

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In the current political and social climate, words like equality, discrimination and rights are heard and seen quite often. Which they should be. Under this current legislation, the LGBT community has no room for complacency. It is times like these ...

Questions from a Mom

Dear Cousin Butchie, I don't know if it was right to search my son's emails and everything else on his computer, but I have been going crazy about his possible homosexuality. I have read more than any mother should, but I did discover your website, ...

Swipe Left Or Swipe Right

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We're seventy-five days into 2017. Unfortunately or fortunately you've found yourself single. But let's just say for argument's sake that this is a good thing for you. The world is your oyster, there's plenty of fish in the sea(pun intended). So ...

Television Program Alert

Hello, Wonderful Readers... I am not answering your question(s) in this post. Rather, I want to remind everyone to watch Dateline on Channel 4 on Friday, March 10th from 9-11PM. The program will deal with the horrendous harm caused by people who ...

Boyfriend Problem

Dear Cousin Butchie, I think we might know each other at school, but I'm not sure and I would rather write to you anyway. My boyfriend has been doing some strange things lately and I'm very confused by what's going on. For example, I went to ...

Seven Ways to Become Sound This Morning

Seven Ways to Become Sound This Morning 1. As soon as you get up, take a deep breath. Inhale and let your belly expand, then your chest. Exhale and draw your belly in. You can also do this anytime throughout the day. Set an alarm on your phone to ...

IN LOVE BUT KEEPING THE BABY AND THE BATH WATER

This letter has been translated by a friend who was able to translate from Polish to English. I am very grateful to her for volunteering. Dear Cousin Butchie, I have just moved to the United States to be with my boyfriend of six years. We are both ...

Feeling Very Trapped!

Dear Cousin Butchie, I am at my wit's end, and I have no idea how I can solve the mess I'm in. I also have a certain degree of guilt about feeling this way. When my father passed away five years ago he made all of us (six children) promise that we ...