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Dating an HIV Positive Dude

Dear Cousin Butchie, I really have no other person to answer this question for me. I am 16 and my b/f is 19. We've dated off and on for about eighteen months. I love him, but he has just told me something which has made my world implode. In ...

Does "Will and Grace" show how my son will grow up?

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Uncle R.J., I am writing to you because I feel that your Nephew Butchie would only tend to confirm the fears I'm having. He may not mean to do it, but I don't want to take a chance asking this question from someone of a younger age who will ...

The Hairy Vegetarian at Sprig and Vine in New Hope

I get a special thrill when I visit or hear about a vegetarian or vegan restaurant. I get a similar charge when I eat at any restaurant that serves a great vegetarian meal, or even tries to. When I first started blogging about vegetarian dining in ...

Coming Out at 57 - Part One

It’s about time I came out. Out, as in to everyone. I’m 57 and it’s about time. I know there are people who know. I display telltale signs. I let my hair down to people I know well. I know people know it about me when I go to ...

Why Have You Not Commented about Donald Trump?

Yo, Cousin Butchie! My friends and I read your column. Sometimes we're good on you, and other times we find your advice to be spot on. So... What in the name of God has caused you to be silent about "President" Donald Trump, his policies, actions, ...

I Retired! Sort Of

On July 1, 2017 I retired. Well, “retire” isn’t a good word to describe what I’ve done. I’m still working. I needed a word that means quit one career to pursue another, and the only one I could think of was ...

Doing What We are Told We Shouldn't

Sometimes I do things people tell me I shouldn’t. Don’t get me wrong. If it’s for good reason, like not stepping into wet concrete, or not going into shark-infested waters, then I obey. Considering, though, our fondness for giving ...

Should We Out the Teacher?

Dear Cousin Butchie, School starts next week, and the three of us have been arguing about something for months, even back into our sophomore year. My two friends and I are gay, but not exactly out. Oh, we're out to each other, but no one else in ...

You Can't Be "Healed" Straight

Yo Cousin Butchie! I am 16 y.o. and I came out to my parents six months ago. It was not a wonderful scene as we argued back and forth about my life. I was told that I was doing this to aggravate them- that I am condemned by society and most faiths- ...

Uncle RJ Invited to Answer Questions for Cousin Butchie #2

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Dear Uncle RJ, What is it like to be an older gay man living in our society? I have had a good number of partners while looking for Mr. Right, and only a few have come close to what I seek, but they didn't come close enough. Are all gay couples ...

Uncle RJ Invited to Answer Questions for Cousin Butchie #1

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Hello Faithful Readers, This is Cousin Butchie. Over the past few months, there have been some questions sent my way and I have felt that they could be better answered by my elderly Uncle RJ. It's not that I can't answer these questions. It's ...

Being a Good Older Brother

Dear Cousin Butchie, My brother and I are both gay. I'm three years older than he is, but we came out at the same time. Our parents were stunned at first. You know, they never suspected, etc. Now they are very accepting and are even marching in the ...

The Equality March for Unity and Pride

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Summer is almost upon us! I know hard to believe right. Depending on where you live it may or may not feel like spring. Although i feel like with global warming, it doesn't feel like much like spring anywhere north of the of the Mason Dixon. However ...

What is happening to our community?

Cousin Butchie! A few friends and I were discussing a problem which still exists in the gay and lesbian community. We all are beyond bothered by the way people think that the transgender people (who have come out of nowhere) are suddenly identified ...

I am soo scared!

Dear Cousin Butchie, I am very scared right now, and none of my friends let me talk about it. As soon as I lead into a discussion, they tune me out. Here's what happened. My parents weren't home and I answered the door for two of Jehovah's ...

Bigotry within the LGBT community

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In the current political and social climate, words like equality, discrimination and rights are heard and seen quite often. Which they should be. Under this current legislation, the LGBT community has no room for complacency. It is times like these ...

Questions from a Mom

Dear Cousin Butchie, I don't know if it was right to search my son's emails and everything else on his computer, but I have been going crazy about his possible homosexuality. I have read more than any mother should, but I did discover your website, ...

Swipe Left Or Swipe Right

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We're seventy-five days into 2017. Unfortunately or fortunately you've found yourself single. But let's just say for argument's sake that this is a good thing for you. The world is your oyster, there's plenty of fish in the sea(pun intended). So ...

Television Program Alert

Hello, Wonderful Readers... I am not answering your question(s) in this post. Rather, I want to remind everyone to watch Dateline on Channel 4 on Friday, March 10th from 9-11PM. The program will deal with the horrendous harm caused by people who ...

Boyfriend Problem

Dear Cousin Butchie, I think we might know each other at school, but I'm not sure and I would rather write to you anyway. My boyfriend has been doing some strange things lately and I'm very confused by what's going on. For example, I went to ...

Seven Ways to Become Sound This Morning

Seven Ways to Become Sound This Morning 1. As soon as you get up, take a deep breath. Inhale and let your belly expand, then your chest. Exhale and draw your belly in. You can also do this anytime throughout the day. Set an alarm on your phone to ...

IN LOVE BUT KEEPING THE BABY AND THE BATH WATER

This letter has been translated by a friend who was able to translate from Polish to English. I am very grateful to her for volunteering. Dear Cousin Butchie, I have just moved to the United States to be with my boyfriend of six years. We are both ...

Feeling Very Trapped!

Dear Cousin Butchie, I am at my wit's end, and I have no idea how I can solve the mess I'm in. I also have a certain degree of guilt about feeling this way. When my father passed away five years ago he made all of us (six children) promise that we ...