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Disabled and Need Advice

Dear Cousin Butchie, I am disabled due to M.S. I am retired and unable to work. My choices were: Move home with my parents, move into assistaed living, or stay in my home and pay someone to help me. I chose the third. After many interviews, mostly ...

A Vegetarian in Aruba: The Screaming Eagle

I'm not hard to please, even as a vegetarian in a tourist spot. But there are a few things that will make me very happy. Put me on the menu. Acknowledge that I exist and that I lead a legitimate, honorable lifestyle. Give me flavor. Prepare and ...

Trans Lunacy or Just Media Lunacy?

'The Grinch who stole the trans movement:' Transgender solider Chelsea Manning launches Christmas attack against Caitlyn Jenner for her behavior after coming out. So now is this incarcerated military felon the new self appointed voice of the ...

Feeling Very Sad and Guilty

Dear Cousin Butchie, I read your blog/column all the time, and it helps me sometimes to understand questions about living my life as a gay young man. Right now I need advice of a different kind, and I don't want to share this with my family or ...

Breaking Up

Dear Cousin Butchie, I have a question I need answered, but I think I know what your answer will be. Well, here goes. I've been in a relationship of sorts for the past thirteen months. My b/f is handsome and hot and plays on the basketball team. ...

To Go or Not to Go

Dear Cousin Butchie, My problem is probably so different and unique that you won't have an answer, but here goes.... I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We are both freshmen in college, and the relationship has been good to ...