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Selfless September - Part Three

I won’t declare Selfless September a failure. It wasn’t. It was a lot harder than I thought it was going to be. I did accomplish one thing, and it has had an impact on my overall health and wellbeing. I have stopped calling other drivers ...

Thoughts about the Pope's visit

We received this note and picture from one of NJGayLife.com's long-time visitors, Gary Wyssling. Thanks for sending this, Gary! I had the privilege of seeing the Pope in Central Park. I will admit that I am a frustrated Catholic and feel the church ...

Pope Francis

Dear Cousin Butchie, I am dating a Catholic dude. My parents aren't delighted that I am gay, and they are actually less delighted that my main crush is Catholic. We have had some discussions about religion, and our future plan would be to adopt a ...

Selfless September - Part Two

This is going to be a lot more difficult than I thought. I’m trying to act less selfishly for the month of September. It’s almost half way over and I’m not getting very far. When I drive I have stopped saying out loud nasty names ...

A Birthday Present?

Dear Cousin Butchie, It feels strange writing to you, but I want an answer from someone who doesn't know me or my family. My brother is 15 and his birthday is coming up in two weeks. We usually exchange gag type gifts and crazy birthday cards so ...

Selfless September - Part One

I’m going to take a month to explore something I’ll call “selflessness.” I’m not quite sure what that means. I mean, I still want to have a self. I don’t want to pretend that I’m not here. That’s not ...

Should I Have Told My Dad?

Dear Cousin Butchie, Hi! I am 16 years old and I've been reading your blogs for more than a few years. That's why I want to ask you a question which is bothering me because I may have missed a great opportunity to come out to my dad. Last month, ...