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Dear Cousin Butchie, I have another blind date on Wednesday. It was arranged for me by a girl in my physics class. She told me that he's really good looking and that she thinks we would make an ideal match. I've had so many other blind dates ...

Another Mother's Day Consideration

My Dear Readers, In my last blog a few days ago I answered a young man whose mother had recently passed away. It centered on his bereavement and how to honor his mom's memory on special "specific anniversary" dates. Cousin Butchie thought he ...

Bereavement

Dear Cousin Butchie, As I understand it, many gay dudes are close to their mothers. It was true in my case because she gave me unconditional love and acceptance. To almost the same degree, my dad did also. Mom died last year, and the anniversary is ...

What is GSD: Going Beyond Our Current Queer Acronym

In the beginning of 2013, the Pink Therapy group in the UK made headlines by saying ‘GSD’ – Gender and Sexual Diversities – should be the new umbrella term for a community that seems to add letters even while they're ...

Despair Leads Us Nowhere

Dear Cousin Butchie, I am a sophomore in high school and I am gay. My parents know, and they just seem to deal with it, but we never have a meaningful discussion about the subject. After the Boston Massacre of yesterday, I was in the downstairs ...

Enjoy a Professional Show in CNJ for $15

GREETINGS! I am departing from my usual blog to bring your attention to a spectacular entertainer who will be doing a fundraiser in Bridgewater on May 5th at 6 PM. The performer is Vincent Talarico and if you take a few minutes to look him up on ...

Lessons Learned From Queer Couples

At this point, John Gottman’s research from a few years ago comparing gay and straight couples is pretty well known. Gottman, a well- respected psychologist and researcher, conducted a study of gay relationships, basically showing that (most) ...

To Thine Own Self Be True

Dear Cousin Butchie, I don't think you usually get letters like this, but here goes. I am 22 years old and suffering from a form of leukemia which is very hard to treat. After the second round of chemo, the doctors told me that I have less than ...

The Growth Of Trans Visibility

Lots of folks are puzzled and surprised by what appears to be a sudden explosion of people who identify as transgender, genderqueer, gender fluid, or something else that is not traditionally ‘male’ or ‘female.’ Even for LGB ...