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My First Yoga Class

I was never very athletic growing up. I hated gym class. I detested playing softball or basketball, and avoided playing them if I possibly could. In grad school when I was about 29, I thought I should do something with my body, so I took advantage ...

My Heart is Broken

Dear Cousin Butchie, My heart is broken and I need advice from you. My friends don't seem to care at all. I fell in love with the dude I loved in my junior year of high school. We made a commitment to each other, and he now tells me that he ...

Pretending Not to Notice

Pretending Not to Notice Dear Cousin Butchie, This is not an earth-shattering question, but some of my friends have become obsessed with the proper etiquette for gay men to use, and I'm asking you this one because I don't think it's been written ...

What Do I Wear for Yoga?

People often ask me what they should wear to a yoga class. Perhaps they donít want to stand out by wearing something too unusual and different than the other yogis. Perhaps they donít want to be the least nor the most dressed in the class. I always ...

My Sister Says.....

Dear Cousin Butchie, Last weekend, I attended my first Gay Pride Festival in Asbury Park. I was with my good friend Christopher. Actually, he is more than just a good friend. We have sex about twice a week, and he is HOT, So last weekend we ...

Mother-in-Law Problems

Dear Cousin Butchie, Roscoe and I have been in a hot and heavy long term monogamous (I think) relationship for the past two months. It is definitely serious. The only problem is Roscoe's mother who doesn't treat me well. When we go to dinner ...