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MY GREATEST GIFT by Jon Holden Galluccio, author of “An American Family”

MY GREATEST GIFT by Jon Holden Galluccio, author of “An American Family” For many of us, probably most of us, the last few weeks of the year bring us so much. So much stress, so much joy, so much sadness….an avalanche of feelings come raining ...

Taking Care of Our Own LGBTI Youth

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The holiday season is in full swing, and I'm sure you have all received many appeals from charities of every type. Recently, there was a surprise (to me) revelation about the specific homophobia of the Salvation Army. I have seen firsthand their ...

The Unimportance of Mothers by Jon Holden Galluccio, author of “An American Family”

The Unimportance of Mothers by Jon Holden Galluccio, author of “An American Family” My daughter Madison just turned 15. My baby is now 15, a young lady and a quite accomplished young lady at that! The truth is that most of the time over the past ...

AIDS IS FAR FROM OVER!

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It is two days since WORLD AIDS DAY on December 1st and I believe the media has done very little to emphasize that HIV/AIDS is still a major epidemic among gay men in this country. It has been important to point out the tragic circumstances of ...

Something to Ponder

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I certainly hope you all had a great Thanksgiving, survived the relatives, ate until you were uber full, made it to Wal-Mart with pepper spray in hand. Almost forgot, did you say grace before dinner-- all pretending that they do this at every meal ...

The Galluccio Family Hits the Road!

Ever since Michael and I won our landmark court case, that made New Jersey the first state in the nation to put gay and unmarried couples on equal footing to married heterosexual couples in the area of adoption, we have been quite the public ...

Not the right time to come out!+-

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As the various holidays descend upon us, it occurs to some gay and lesbian people that it would be the ideal time to come out. I am not an expert on this subject, but I can tell you what a thirty year affiliation with PFLAG (and now the voice of ...

Death Always Stares Us Down

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The subject of death is not something our society likes to hear about, read about or talk about. Yet, death enters our lives as the great thief in the night, and we are left to deal with feelings we may not have realized could run so deep. I ...

Bullying/Suicides...... Don't Shut Up!

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For some reason I have hesitated to blog about the continued bullying in our schools and the suicides of so many of our children. I suspect that I was a little ahead of The Advocate's current article suggesting that so much media attention to the ...

Shining Star, Shining Moment

“We’re all just people and we need to learn to respect each other” – Madison Elena Galluccio Michael and I began this crazy parenting journey back in 1994. Childless, with just the spark of a possibility, we took our first step towards making a ...

The Galluccio Family at Hudson Pride

Keynote Speech at the Hudson Pride Festival in Jersey City, Sunday, October 9th. The whole Galluccio Family--Adam and Madison both spoke and Rosa, Jose, Maryanna, Leila and Joselyn all joined us on stage.

Happy National Coming Out Day!

Today, October 11th, is National Coming Out Day. It got me thinking about the many steps to my coming out and how it is today. I was in a non-gay marriage for 15 years and had a 5 year old when it finally became clear to me that I was living a lie. ...

Yes, Jesus May Well Have Been Gay!

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It has always been apparent to me that Michael Moore takes on the giant corporations and the government leaders to make some very valid observations. His latest controvery came when Moore said that Jesus may very well have been gay. I don't know ...

Sieze the Rays of Hope

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Roman Catholics are numerically the largest religion in the United States. Whether they are going to Mass every week is another issue. As a Gay Roman Catholic, my life has been a balancing act. I have tried other faith traditions and found them ...

Some Older People Have It In Perspective

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I don't have any even remotely interesting sharings for this blog until next week, but I do want to share a profoundly moving moment I experienced here at God's Waiting Room. I suggest you get your tissues. Muriel and Fred had been married for 62 ...

Young Gay Youth at Seemingly Different Ends of the Spectrum

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This past week in God's Waiting Room has been interesting, frustrating and challenging-- and all of these feelings and reactions have been caused by two gay boys, both under 21 years of age. In both instances, I had been asked by their ...

Tyler Clementi Lives On

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This week on September 22nd we recall the passing of Tyler Clementi, the victim of bullying in its worst form. He was denied his privacy and pushed over the edge of reason by other Rutgers students who chose to take away his dignity and freedom to ...

We Were Changed Forever

As I watch the reading of the names on this 10th anniversary of the horror that was 9/11/01, I am as raw as was that day. The people we remember today were at work or traveling somewhere. It was just a day until it wasn't. Through my tears and ...

9/11 and the Gay Heroes

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9/11's Gay Heroes I wasn't too sure I was going to write anything about the tenth anniversary of 9/11. The media already seems surfeited with coverage, local municipalities and churches and temples are presenting special services. When I heard a ...

Good Signs in the Gay Community

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After the week we have all survived, and the totally unpredictable damage from community to community, I didn't want to tell any of the funnier stories about living this out in God's Waiting Room. We'll save that for another day. Two things struck ...

Are you awake? It's me.....Hero!

Years, years and even more years ago, I would take people's inventory for all the wrong reasons. It was to point out flaws, to feel superior and the reality was I was taking their inventory in order to avoid my own. Now however, after a lot of ...

Keep It to Yourself

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Do you remember your first crush? In all probability that is a person you became totally obsessed with. We all had first experiences which, at the time, we were sure were going to last forever. It doesn't matter when it took place, but it formed ...

Sunshine is Back!

Arriving at Camp Merry Heart, we are greeted by group of counselors including Amy. Amy, Adam's young blonde Australian counselor, told us to wait and she would go get Adam. Having a arrived at 1pm on the dot for pick up, not all the campers were ...

Answer Their Questions!

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ANSWER THEIR QUESTIONS! We all know that most heterosexual people can be dense at times. They might appear to be very accepting of us, but their questions often grate on my nerves. Sometimes it is best to ignore the question or comment, but at ...

Adam Wants to be a Rapper!

Adam wants to be a rapper! Adam says “ I can say nigger and bitch when I rap right?” “OMG, NO and you know I hate that word!” I reply. “What word?” “Nigger” “Dad” Adam says exasperated “I didn’t say nigger, I said NIGGA and that’s cool ...

The Reality of Design Star

Being fortunate enough to have been chosen as a finalist on this sixth season of the premiere interior design competition series, HGTV Design Star, is a super huge deal for me as a professional designer, a husband, a dad and not to forget, a gay man ...

WTFNJ?

WTFNJ? Where’s the Freedom? On a beautiful summer Sunday, we had the opportunity to attend a rally in Hoboken sponsored by Garden State Equality and Lambda Legal to raise our voices in protest. For as our brothers and sisters were getting legally ...

Don't Be So Sure!

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Don't be so sure when you start to assume who will be in favor of gay rights and who will be against them. An interesting discussion started here in God's Waiting Room about GLBT rights. The social worker who led the group introduced the subject ...

My cat is dying, now let's be grateful!

Over the past few days we have been dealing with a crisis here in the Galluccio home. Our cat, Mercury, a large gray and white "street cat" which we adopted as a stray from Eastside Park, Paterson, 10 years ago, is dying. So the drama here in this ...

Kate's Journey

This being my inaugural blog for “Transpective” it is difficult to know where to start. How about with some basic terms? The terms GRS, SRS or GCS can be a puzzle and an alphabet soup! “Gender Reassignment Surgery”, “Sexual Reassignment Surgery” and ...

Adjusting

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Well, RJ is still taking psychotropic meds to get adjusted to living in God's Waiting Room, but the problems have become more than I expected. The other morning, I entered the elevator to greet a pleasant lady holding a Dunkin' Donuts bag. I ...

EAR PWR ~ "National Parks" ~ [video NSFW]

Synths still sound synthetic to me. After all these years, decades, hell, generations, I still have a tough time not dismissing, never mind preferring songs based largely in the naked, largely overtone-less bleats for which synths are known. ...

The Axis of Awesome ~ "4 Chords" : Bringing The Funny

They call themselves The Axis of Awesome: That's a big glaring clue right there, right? The easy comparisons are to Jack Black and Kyle Gass as Tenacious D (the Hard Rock tributaries/parodists), for lovingly skewering every strand of Pop they ...

Let's call what has gone before the "Soft Opening"

Hi, and thanks for your patience! Why the long stretch between posts? The short answer is I really need to find a paying job. The slightly longer list includes a long-planned visit with Portland OR friends (I didn't pay for... Yet.), and several ...

George Thorogood & The Destroyers ~ 2120 South Michigan Avenue

It has been over 30 years since Thorogood's second album forced its way anachronistically onto late 1970s radios. His latest isn't the blast of take-no-prisoners ground-staking "Move It On Over" (and its predecessor) was. This one hangs around ...

Where's NJ's wedding videos?????

With the HUGE legislative victory in New York and a NEW law suit filed in New Jersey, same-sex marriage talk is at a feverish pitch right now. So, not to be left out, I too wish to comment. For your information, I would like to quickly outline ...

Pride: Hell yeah I'm proud!

Is there anyone gay out there that doesn't know that June is Gay Pride month? Ok, so I'm sure there are (considering those newbies and all) but for me and in my house it is huge each and every year. Although our participation has varied from year ...

Gay singers *represent!* on The Voice

In the event that this post catches readers before the 10am Wednesday 6/22 deadline (I know, not much time at all.... ) Voting has begun on the semi-final round of NBC's singing competition series The Voice. The most noteworthy part of the show ...

Martin Swinger In Concert in New Jersey in August!
And More About Martin!

JUST ANNOUNCED! Martin Swinger In Concert in New Jersey in August! Especially excited to announce the August 15th performance at GAAMC! Friday, August 12, 7 PM Front Porch House Concert Martin Swinger solo show! Admission $15 308 Meadowbrook Rd. ...

The Reality Dating Service

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Despite what some very sweet PFLAG mothers (and others) would like you to believe, not every gay man arrives in his golden years, living in God's Waiting Room happily- partnered for forty-three years, with three adopted children from third world ...

Observations

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In response to Bill Realman Stella, I am taking the easy way out this time. I'll limit myself to one belief which is sure to cause controversy and one which should not. Other parts of the fielded questions will be tackled later in the week. ...

Martin Swinger ~ M O O N
Swinger's songs are among the strongest released in 2011

Martin Swinger ~ M O O N It's Gay Pride Month here in New Jersey. Across the country and around much of the world, Pride is celebrated with partying, parades and festivals. But what else is available to us Queers — us Proud Gay Men & ...

Ask me a question!

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Now that everyone is recovering from the excitement of NJ Pride, I invite you to submit a question you might not be comfortable about asking your closest friend. RJ is up to the challenge and would really be happy to field your question. You can ...

What Do We Have to be Proud of?

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Back in 1981 when gay pride and the women's rights movements were still in their infancy, a disturbing statement was made about us: "Women's liberation and gay liberation are part of the same thing: a weakening of the moral standards of this nation. ...

A Brand New Day

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I am the creator of NJGayLife.com and I'm proud to announce the new website. The latest version of this site is more informative, more attractive and will, as always, have the best information about what is going on in the Garden State. Hope you ...

GOD'S WAITING ROOM

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Greetings, dear readers! I've been given the opportunity to write this blog from God's waiting room, adjacent to God's front door. After a certain age, the gay community at large puts everyone in this holding room. The people are too old to ...

Hey buddy... can you spare a BMW ?

I read an interesting study lately that polled women over fifty about their biggest fears...and they were not what you might think. It wasn't so much about aging, or getting older. And, it wasn't about being able to find the perfect love of their ...