A Jewish Mother's Concern

Posted by Cousin Butchie on Saturday, September 27, 2014

Dear Cousin Butchie,

Since this is our Jewish celebration of the new year, I decided to tell you something which I am sure many other Jewish gay guys have experienced. I assume that anyway.

After coming out to my kind of secular Jewish parents, I started to hang around with other gay dudes. I met most them in our school's GSA. (That's Gay/Straight Alliance). I would sometimes go to their homes, and I would invite them to mine for video games (for starters
( lol). I began having a major crush on a guy named Anthony. It soon became obvious that he also felt the same about me.  We dated, and I brought him home to meet my mom and dad. After he left, my mom got me aside and said that she really liked Anthony but she didn't think he was Jewish.  I told her that he wasn't.  The silent treatment started and went on for two days. When she did bring up Anthony's name, she said that it was certainly enough that they were accepting of their gay son, but that my "fascination" with a Catholic boy was pushing things too far. We argued. Dad tried to stay neutral, but he was on mom's side.

Well, Cousin Butchie... that was fifteen years ago, and Anthony has been totally accepted as part of the family. We are planning a wedding in the near future.  



Dear Alex,

That is a wonderful story, and I'm glad you shared it with us. Congratulations on your forthcoming marriage ceremony.  

One important thing was not included in your story. What was the reaction of Anthony's parents? 

jeffinjersey on December 6, 2014 at 11:55:09 pm said:
Dear Alex, "Menachem" has no right to judge you. Plus, if he were to actually study the Torah (and read "God vs. Gay") he would realize that there are many, many arguments AGAINST his perspective. Good luck and enjoy your life.
Menachem on October 8, 2014 at 6:21:24 pm said:
Dear Alex, I remind you if what Torah teaches in Leviticus 18:22, and 20:13. Shame on you, and shame on the "rabbi", or "minister" who performs the "marriage"!
Mr. & Mrs. Butchie on September 28, 2014 at 11:00:03 am said:
You are writing a wonderful column which I am glad our friends don't see. No, really we would let them read it.

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